If it doesn’t open it’s not your door

I love this quote and have repeated it in one form or another many times when I see someone repeatedly banging on a closed door. All that energy being spent when clearly the universe has a different and better door that will arise when they let go of the notion that this particular door is the one for them.

And then almost a year ago we found the perfect house when we had an offer on ours and I put my heart, soul, and all my energy, will and determination into making it our house. But the door would not open. From the moment we put our offer in on it the signs were not good and I refused to see them. We got significantly gazumped a week later and had to raise our offer beyond what we could realistically afford. We then spent almost 9 months trying to buy the property and got tangled up in the powerlessness that arises when dealing with solicitors, legalese and dead ends every step of the way.

In the end when the truth came to light, a defective title deed meant it was unpurchasable. The stress of trying to buy a house that simply wasn’t meant for us was immense and destructive, and we were truly heartbroken and broken when we pulled out just before Christmas and moved into a rented home for 6 months.

And then, when we had truly let go of the dream, the universe opened up and a beautiful house in a village we have always loved came on the market. We walked in and I just knew. My heart is my truest barometer and it melted. In a lovely serendipitous twist the day we completed on this lovely house is the exact day last year that we sold ours. The circle is complete. I’m sat here in our cosy snug with a snoozing toddler and dog curled up and I feel incredibly blessed to be here and to have eventually seen the signs that were all around and let go of the notion that something else was meant to be mine. It’s only been a week and I am so in love.

I’m sharing this with you because sometimes we all need a reminder to let doors that won’t open go, to create the space in our lives for something that is meant to be ours to open up. If the door isn’t opening, sometimes we need to let go of the notion that we know what’s best for us and trust that when we let go and flow, the right door will open at the right time.