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Finding freedom from issues with VortexHealing

September 24, 2014 by Tania Louise Leave a Comment

As I write this I’m currently away in Brighton part way through a course called Jewel, a 10-day advanced level of VortexHealing. Most of us on the course have been working with VortexHealing for the past 5 years or more and at this point in our healing journeys we are as a group working on some of the big issues that many people face.

Yesterday and today we worked on clearing the issue of Rejection in all the emotional, karmic and genetic layers we can get at in ourselves, as it is an issue we can be challenged with not only from our present life experiences, but also inherited from our parents, and even further back from ancestors and past lives. Before we worked on it I really didn’t think it was an issue that affected me but as we worked through the layers of emotional conditioning using this wonderful method of healing, I could get a real sense of where I had felt rejected in my life at times, and where I had rejected people and situations rather than deal with them. The freedom I now feel after working on this issue is palpable and I feel lighter and clearer as a result.

As practitioners when we work with VortexHealing it’s so important that we work on our own ‘stuff’ not only so we can be more in balance in our lives but also so that we can share with our clients how this therapy really can make a difference. From my perspective, the healing that has happened in my life over the past 5 years with this transformational therapy has made a dramatic difference to my sense of personal peace and wellbeing. And after working on my own issues I also know how much our issues can weigh us down and affect our relationships with ourselves and others.

During client sessions there are some core issues that I see many people struggling with, either with complete awareness that it is something affecting their lives or it will be running in the background and negatively impacting their lives and relationships. Some of these include:

Abandonment: Feeling abandoned by those we love, which can stem from childhood such as having an emotionally unavailable parent or a loved one who died early on in our lives. It can also make us needy in relationships, fearing the other person will leave, or it can make us shy away from close relationships to avoid the pain of being abandoned
Fear: Ranging from deep-seated primal survival fear that can be held in our systems over many lifetimes up to every day anxiety that stops us living a full life
Lack: This can be a sense of never having enough, or being enough (not good enough/slim enough/wealthy enough/attractive enough/a good enough parent/partner/child etc), and it can make life feel lacking when compared to others
Guilt: Blaming ourselves from things that we have done in the past, this issue keeps us stuck in the past and forever giving ourselves a hard time over what we have done, which as it can’t be resolved just keeps us powerless

These are just some of the common issues I see with clients but as part of our VortexHealing training we deal with the whole spectrum of issues that people are challenged with. One issue that I think is prevalent with many people is Co-dependency and many issues are very much connected with it.

Co-dependency can manifest itself in many different ways; you may be a people pleaser and need others to be happy in order for you to feel okay, you may be an overprotective parent or spouse being over-involved with the lives of your significant others, taking responsibility for their emotional wellbeing, or you may have control issues and need things and people to be a certain way in order for you to feel safe and okay.

This issue gets in the way of being authentically you in relationships which can lead to feelings of resentment, frustration or power struggles, or at the other end of the scale, removing yourself from close relationships all together because it is simply just too complicated. If you’re unsure whether co-dependency affects you have a read of this fantastic article that covers it in detail.

The good news is that whatever issues you are consciously dealing with or that are subconsciously affecting your life and relationships, VortexHealing can work on clearing them at a very deep level. Given that we only get once crack around the track in this life, letting go of old issues can be incredibly liberating and create a real sense of freedom for peace to emerge.

To get more information on how VortexHealing can help you, please check out the VortexHealing page or email tania@tanialouise.com to book in for a session.

Wishing you freedom and peace,

Tania x

Better out than in…

July 18, 2014 by Tania Louise Leave a Comment

So this week has been all about surrendering & accepting what is and funnily enough it hasn’t been easy! Most of the time the wise part of me is present in the background, guiding me back on track, soothing me when I’m riled and encouraging me to stay out of any dramas. This week however, I think she may have gone on holiday and left me with the un-awakened part of me that is prone to a bit of drama and woe, as it hasn’t been smooth.

When life gets a little bumpier, as it does from time to time, before I can reach peace and acceptance I have to find an outlet for getting out whatever it is that is pushing my buttons. If I keep it in I very quickly feel out of balance. For me journalling and EFT work best. What doesn’t work best is express how I feel when I’m in the midst of it, as once it’s out, it’s out! You see, while I am calm and centered a lot of the time, I have also inherited my dad’s Ukrainian fireyness, and we need to Let.It.Out. But as I’ve discovered over the years, there’s a healthy way and then there’s the other way.

In the work I do with clients a lot of the time people have been keeping stuff in; old hurts, regrets, anger, disappointment, guilt, and because it hasn’t been resolved, it has dragged the person down to a place where they feel out of balance, unhappy, and unable to fully move on to a place of peace. Strong and painful emotions kept in can hugely stress our body, and if left unresolved, I believe can affect our health. There are plenty of ways that people learn to deal with their stuff such as having distractions that could include shopping, drinking, eating or working, but these never get to the truth of the matter, and what we resist persists, so we may as well do something about it.

Journalling is something that I’ve been doing for the last couple of years as part of the counselling courses I’ve been on. We’re encouraged to write about whatever comes up for us in class as well as in every day life. I have found that having this space to get everything out on the page is really therapeutic. Sometimes though you can journal about it, meet a friend and rant about it, or have a good old shout but the issue isn’t cleared and it will just keep on repeating itself in your life, one way or another, until we really tackle it and heal it. The best method for truly getting to the roots of our issues that I have found is EFT, which stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques.

EFT looks unusual and it is unusual; tapping on different energy points in the body, tuning into uncomfortable feelings that we usually prefer to keep in, and forgiving our selves, all out loud, can feel awkward and bonkers in equal measure when we start. But once you get into the swing of things it can also be incredibly liberating and, most importantly, deeply effective and transformational. In a session I tend to work intuitively and I’m often told that it’s like I’m in the person’s head once we get tapping and talking. I encourage my clients to tap on all issues that arise, and to use it as a self-help tool in their daily life, as part of the session involves me teaching the process to the client. To see EFT in action please check out my YouTube channel where I post EFT demos as well as guided meditations.

I personally use EFT to help me work through and process uncomfortable stuff that arises in my life, and I love how quickly it can take down the intensity of my feelings and create space for clarity and peace to arise. Sometimes though I forget I have this amazing tool, and I’ll go a few days, getting pulled into an issue or a drama, and then at some point the fog lifts and I remember EFT. That aha moment is like a slap to the head; here I am getting stressed and not getting anywhere with it, and all along there’s a way to alleviate it…doh!

Occasionally though we prefer to stay in life’s dramas; we may think it’s giving up, or giving in, to let go, and of course this way of thinking doesn’t lead to peace either. For this I have found self-enquiry to be a life saver as it can help to retrain our thinking from limiting and unhelpful to empowering and supportive. During sessions when it’s appropriate I share the techniques I have picked up from teachers over the years as they can be wonderfully transformational.

Next week I’ll share with you some of the best tips I’ve found for creating a more empowering head-space. In the meantime if you feel you would benefit from learning this transformational and effective technique to help you deal with life’s bumps and unresolved emotional stuff, please email tania@tanialouise.com and we’ll arrange a chat to talk more about how it may be able to help you.

Until then, wishing you a lovely and peaceful weekend,

Tania x

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